The Four Tasks of Mourning Explained (Worden’s Model)

While there’s no single “right” way to grieve, research has given us helpful frameworks that make the process feel less isolating. One of the most compassionate and empowering models is J. William Worden’s Four Tasks of Mourning. At The Grief Table, we explore these tasks not as rules, but as gentle invitations — ways to move through grief at your own pace, honoring both your loss and your love. 

What Are the Four Tasks of Mourning? 

Worden’s model offers a flexible framework — not a timeline. These “tasks” are steps that many grieving people naturally move through, but they don’t happen in order and you can revisit them over and over. 

Accepting the Reality of the Loss Accepting doesn’t mean being “okay” with the loss. It means beginning to face the reality that your loved one is gone, which can take time and often happens in layers 

Processing the Pain of Grief Processing your pain means allowing space for your emotions: anger, sadness, guilt, love, and longing. At The Grief Table, we believe in making room for all parts of grief, without shame or rushing 

Adjusting to a World Without Your Loved One This task focuses on navigating life after loss — practically, emotionally, and spiritually. You may face changes in roles, identity, or relationships. These adjustments take time and can be painful, but they also reveal your resilience 

Finding an Enduring Connection While Moving Forward This task isn’t about “letting go.” It’s about learning how to carry your loved one with you while also continuing to live.